Ms. Violet's Musings

if you're not angry, then you're not paying attention.

Monday, June 20, 2005

Sexism Against Men & skirts and posies

Okay, I am supposed to be revising, but this caught my attention. Yes, we live in a dangerous world and precautions have to be made, but to point at a man who works with children and automatically say "paedophile!" is grossly sexist and ridiculous. The numbers of men working with children seemed to have dropped dramatically not because they do not want to work with children, but rather because they are too frightened to. All this produces is a generation of fear bewtween children and adult men. For example, when I started Primary School aged four, there were three male teachers out of a possible eight. By the time I left at age eleven, there were none. Add the fact that I didn't have a dad at home, and I found that I was anxious and scared when left in the company of grown-up men. Philip Bennison is perfectly right in stating "I felt I was being victimised for being a man". There is no difference between this sort of prejudice and when a woman is refused a job in a traditionally male-orintated career simply due to her gender.

Friday, June 17, 2005

Evangelical Madmen & diets and needlework

I'm glad that the likes of Pat Robertson and the rest of his religious right-wing buddies make me laugh. His comments are so ludicrous that even I cannot bring myself to boil up with rage. re. feminism:
"a socialist, anti-family political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians."
re. family planning:
"It is teaching kids to fornicate, teaching people to have adultery, every kind of bestiality, homosexuality, lesbianism-everything that the Bible condemns."
re... what the hell? I don't have a clue anymore:
"How can there be peace when drunkards, drug dealers, communists, atheists, New Age worshipers of Satan, secular humanists, oppressive dictators, greedy money changers, revolutionary assassins, adulterers, and homosexuals are on top."
It's so bad that it almost renders me speechless. Almost. The disturbing facts are that a) he has his own (no doubt enlightening) television series and b) that he has actually made a bid for US presidency. Meaning that some people are actually listening. Oh, and one more little gem to see you off, straight from the lips of that charming evangelical madman Jerry Falwell: re. who caused the September 11th terrorist attacks:
"pagans, abortionists, feminists, gays, lesbians, the ACLU and the People for the American Way."
That's right. It was YOU, wasn't it?

Monday, June 13, 2005

Fat Britain & sugar and light

If you were to scan across the magazine racks in newsagents or watch just a few minutes worth of adverts, this would probably come as a surprise. The fact is that there are more overweight and obese men in th UK than women. Yet, still, Weightwatchers blatantly targets women and - lo and behold - in those commercials for various low fat foods, I am yet to see one of those people squeezing into their favourite jeans to be male. The pressure is constantly put on the women, whereas it is men who have the ever-expanding waistlines.
Only a third of overweight men would be motivated to lose weight even if being overweight affected their sex life
Yet, how many women force themselves into eating disorders as they feel 'fat' and 'unattractive' to their partners?

Saturday, June 11, 2005

Single Mums & shopping and giggles

This reminded me of my own useless father. When I was about seven, I seem to recall a certain degree of glamour connected to those kids whose parents were divorced. I mean, two bedrooms? Extra fun step-mums and step-dads? Weekends away? How lucky! Then it went and happened to me and, obviously, it wasn't the 'cool' experience that I thought it would be. Dad drifted from place to place, the £30 a week maintence money that my mom was supposed to recieve each week for three children soon stopped (£10 a child. Surely there is something very wrong with that?), as did the weekends away. Plus, it wasn't even as though the exclusive Lost Children Of Divorcees Club was that exclusive anymore. Suddenly, it seemed as though everyone in Year Five had mommies and daddies who didn't live together. So it became the norm. I'm not going to lie and say "Single parent families are like non-stop parties!" - we all know it's hard. Although, at the time I was rather oblivious to just how difficult my mother found it at times. But, as corny as it sounds, it was almost like a team effort - all of us working together to make life easier and more fun. Now I look at families where the parents are still married and living together after about twenty years and - god - do they hate each other. Obviously, I am sure that some people stayed together and lived happily ever after - but, from looking around me, all I see is resentment amongst long-term husbands and wives. And I know children (and many adult children) secretly wishing that their parents had just divorced years ago, without using the ugly justification of "we're staying together for the kids". What a cruel thing to say. This is not the 1950s. Children are no longer valid scapegoats for staying in horrible relationships. And what does this teach these kids? That marriage is a binding contract and that no matter how unhappy you are you are obliged to stay put, whether you like it or not? All around me I see young girls and women follwing the poor examples of their mothers by marrying into relationships which they are not even slightly comfortable in or sure about. My own mother is incredibly independent, outspoken and intelligent - therefore I have grown to be a similar person. Divorce is not a nice thing, but surely the alternative - staying in a damaging relationship - is more dangerous to all parties concerned?